Tuesday, April 17, 2012

Why Didn't Someone Tell Me These Things?! (A Top Ten Tuesday Post)

Top Ten Tuesday is hosted by The Broke and the Bookish and created by the amazing Jamie. Go HERE to find out more about Top Ten Tuesday and future topics.

So even though I've been blogging for a little over 1.5 years, I'm by no means an expert. I'll never be. In fact, I still have "I SUCK" complexes weekly. Just kidding...daily. But I think I'm better off now that I've learned (most of) the following:
1. Quit Trying to Make "Perfection" Happen. It's Not Gonna Happen.
The awesome thing about blogging is that nobody is perfect. Sure, we've all got role models, but there is no set right or wrong way of doing things. You've signed up for your own little corner of the internet and you can do whatever the heck you want with it. It's been said a million times, but you do what works for you. If that's not good enough for people, who cares? As long as you're happy with your blog and you're getting your feelings about books out there, that is what counts.

2. Find a Support System.
Now, not everyone may need this, but I've found some of the most amazing people through book blogging, who have become "real life" friends whom I talk to about everything. These are the people who are going to motivate you and those you can fall back on if you need to be told that you don't suck. Not to mention the people you can unabashedly squeal over books with and analyze the most minute details that no one else would ever think of. These people have become my rock.

3. Save the Drama for Your (enter name here.)
Honestly, drama is everywhere. If you want to partake, that is a personal decision. I try to lie low, mostly. And it makes blogging a whole lot more pleasant. If you need to unleash the beast and complain about this or that, please reference the previous number. Have bitch sessions with your blogger friends! You can laugh about it later. And you will. Because drama is silly.

4. It's Okay Not to Post Everyday.
No one wants to read filler. I try not to half-arse anything I post. If inspiration hasn't struck, sometimes I go a week without a post. Does this make me a crap blogger? Some may think so. But they always say: quality over quantity.


5. Blah blah blah, ARCs, blah blah blah.
Yes, we all get green eyes over those who gets hoards of ARCs every week. They're shiny and pretty and visually stimulating. But if you need to vent about it, do it to the proper party (AHEM, SUPPORT SYSTEM.) ARCs don't magically fall into people's laps. The majority of mine come from other amazingly generous bloggers and NetGalley, and I am eternally grateful. It's natural to be jealous. It's not natural to beg.

6. Don't Be Afraid!
Social Media is there for a reason. Don't be intimidated by other bloggers or authors. If they don't respond to you, that doesn't automatically mean they hate you. (I AM A HYPOCRITE! This is something I am still working on.) Just say hello. What do you have to lose?

So okay. I could only think of six things. I'm sure there's more, but they're probably redundant and would piggyback off the six things I just mentioned. What tips do you have for new bloggers?


  1. I am really trying to get better about not worrying about posting every single day. Even if I read 3 books a week, that still leaves 4 days open, and I'd rather not just fill up with memes. Besides, most people follow via feed anyway, so they get my posts when something new shows up, no matter how long it takes for that to happen:)

  2. So True! It is awesome to see all these bloggers essentially saying the same thing! Makes me feel less insane!

  3. True, perfection's an illusion :-)

  4. I'm visiting ARC Paradise today. I'm off to my librarian convention and one of the perks is bringing home enormous piles of lovely, lovely books.

    Here's my
    Top Ten Tips for New Bloggers.
    I love to have you stop by and comment!

  5. I so agree about the drama! I really try to stay out of it, but sometimes it can just be overwhelming.

  6. Yes to number 5. Bloggers can't expect to get ARCs from publishers. If you do: fabulous! If not, get some books from the library. I've only gotten a handful of ARCs and that's okay with me plus it makes for a happy surprise if I do get one! :)

  7. Thanks for being MY support system <3

  8. Bwahahaha! Blah blah blah ARCs Blah! I love it! So very true. It's easy to see what everyone else is getting that we are not, but we shouldn't think of it that way. There are so many books that need reviewed, and they aren't the new ones! That's for sure!

  9. The first time I got approved for a book on Netgalley I literally did a little dance in my chair. And I still do each and every time I get approved because I have no patience and I want to read ALL OF THE BOOKS now. Still, it makes me think of that old expression "ARCs are a privilege, not a right." Anyone who goes in expecting to get ARCs right off the bat is going to be sad...it took me months of work before I got my first one!

    Great advice, thank you. I think I struggle the most with #6.

  10. I think of the ARC thing like this... I don't always WANT all of the books that people are getting as ARCs, so why be jealous over books I'm not interested in. I know there are some series that people are drooling over and raving about that I don't even really have the urge to read. So I don't get all "OMG! They have more ARCs than me" because honestly if you aren't going to read them why hoard all the ARCs. :) I think people just get worried that if they don't get ARCs that they won't have good content on their blogs... which is untrue.... great reviews = great blog. Like you said QUALITY over QUANTITY. :)

  11. "amazingly generous bloggers and NetGalley" this is how I get mine! Pubs don't mail me any.

    And yes, I'm happy to have blogging friends I can complain to on a regular basis.

    I do feel like people hate me if they don't even respond to my Tweets...you're not the only one. I have even unfollowed a person (maybe 2?) because they never talk back, to not only me, but pretty much everyone. It is called SOCIAL media for a reason.

  12. Love love love: "it's not natural to beg."

    Good tips. It may have only been 6 but it felt like 10 to me. :)

  13. Love, love your list! And the inclusion of all the great pictures, too. Haha. A support system is definitely necessary. Who else would we gush over books with or text when we finish something awesome? My "real life" Austin friends don't all have the same love for books as me.

  14. Yes to #1. I need to learn to let that perfect go a little more. Great list.

  15. Only 6, but they are very important 6 things. I am amazed at all the good advice in this week's top ten.

    JJ iReads
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  16. I actually love the drama. I'm a sucker for chaos, and it highly amuses me to see how badly people react to certain things, though I do know that this attitude is rather annoying and doesn't make me a nice person. Can't help myself. I try to stay out of it, too, though. It's just not worth it. Blogging is supposed to be fun, and there are so many easygoing people everywhere.. Well, no need for drama llamas.

    Patricia // My Post

  17. Love your post. You have some very wise advice on here. I need to listen to your #1 more often. I admit that I am a bit of a perfectionist and I find it really hard to remind myself sometimes that mistakes happen or that I cant just blink and do everything right all the time. I also like your advice to get a support system! Blogging takes time and I am sure at times it can get frustrating and it’s nice to have people to talk to who understand what you’re experiencing!

    Darlene @ Leather Bound and Lovely

  18. Thank you for the excellent advice. I need to jump in a bit more with the social aspect. But I'm working on it.
    Angela @ AJ Arndt Books Blog

  19. Haha, I loved the picture from the birds with 'Mine' :p wonderful movie, but, I'm going to give a reaction on your great tips.

    ARC's, you are right. I sometimes am jealous when I see a book I've been waiting for so long, but it's not that I don't feel happy for them. I don't have the raving, green monster, just a slight 'AHHH I WANT IT TO' feeling :p

  20. Love the one about not feeling you have to post everyday. I couldn't agree more! Quality over quantity and all that:) Enjoyed your list!

  21. I adore you! This list is SO your personality and makes me smile so big my cheeks hurt. ;)

    Also, it's a dang good list.

  22. YAY. Such excellent thoughts. And you know why they're so fab? It's how they're written - you have the amazing ability to make peeps laugh at what you're saying, Jen, while still absorbing it. It's enjoyable and fun, and I can always look forward to hilarity when I'm hopping onto your blog, and I think that's what makes it so addictive to read.

    OKAY. Didn't mean to ramble there, but I just felt it was important you know that. And I think you gave well though-out tips that are absolutely true, and bloggers need to be conscious of. Particularly numbers three and five!

  23. #1 reminds me of fetch. WHY WON'T FETCH HAPPEN?!

  24. Bahahaha those birds. That's from Finding Nemo right? I think? Sigh. Disney FOREVA.

    Pretty much in love with this post and your blog. <33333

  25. I couldn't agree more with quality > quantity. HIGH FIVE.

  26. Hi, thank for such a great post. I have had my blog off and on for a little while, I am hoping to be able to dedicate more time to it now and your post has really helped with the I must post every day paranoia I think a lot of us get.
    Your blog looks great and I love your layout.